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Today is Jimmy Kimmel’s Unfriend (on social media) Day. Here is how to decide who makes the cut – CNN

Summary

The initiative started in 2010 on Kimmel’s show, where he advised his audience, “post a status update that says, ‘I’m moving this weekend and I need help.’ The people that respond? Those are your friends. Everyone else isn’t.”

He has acknowledged the unofficial holiday in many years following.

CNN has reached out to ABC for comment on the occasion, but has not received a response.

Since then, the virtual world has grown more integrated with the physical one — as well as more…….

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The initiative started in 2010 on Kimmel’s show, where he advised his audience, “post a status update that says, ‘I’m moving this weekend and I need help.’ The people that respond? Those are your friends. Everyone else isn’t.”

He has acknowledged the unofficial holiday in many years following.

CNN has reached out to ABC for comment on the occasion, but has not received a response.

Since then, the virtual world has grown more integrated with the physical one — as well as more politically divided. With the magnitude of information coming our way, it is important to be selective about who is allowed into our virtual world, said Suzana Flores, a licensed clinical therapist with New Orleans non-profit Ochsner Health and author of the book “Facehooked.”

“Social media is a very wonderful tool in order to make us feel happier, and conversely it can be overwhelming because in today’s world, a virtual world, we’re receiving multiple messages from multiple sources throughout multiple times of the day,” Flores said. “The mind is just not designed to handle all of that.”

It takes emotional energy to filter out the posts that bring you closer to people and the ones that might strike a nerve — and even more energy to figure out how to resolve those bad feelings.

Whereas we once would debate with friends in person, agree to disagree and then get a beer together, we now are frequently using public posts and isolated messages to communicate in ways we never would face to face, she said.

Worse still, with such an influx of information, people really only have the attention span to look at headlines and are debating without much understanding of the nuance, Flores added.

“We should be able to have these conversations. We think we are having these conversations, but we are really not,” she said.

The result is that sometimes it is better for us not to engage online, where the problem can’t always be resolved. That can mean taking a break from online platforms, unfollowing, unfriend or even block people whose posts cause you stress, anger or anxiety.

It can be a difficult decision to cut someone from your virtual world, so Flores gave three factors to consider when making the decision to engage in a conversation, unfollow their posts or unfriend them.

I choose me

The first thing to consider is your own feelings, Flores said.

“For people that are over accommodating or empaths, it feels selfish, but it’s really not,” Flores said. “We forget about what’s good for us.”

She advises you listen to your body when you come across those posts: How does my body feel? Is this causing me stress?

“If you feel like a constriction in your chest area … that’s usually a sign,” Flores added.

It is important to also give yourself …….

Source: https://www.cnn.com/2021/11/17/health/unfriend-social-media-wellness/index.html